At 50, I’ve been single for 11 years after a very abusive marriage. When I finally managed to get rid of my husband I decided to concentrate on my ten-year-old and one-year-old. During that time I saw the occasional man, but never introduced them to my children. I’m very happy, at times lonely, but I have friends and we are a close family.

Over the past three years I’ve occasionally met up with one man I’ve known for years through friends, although every time I went to his place I felt pressured to have sex.On the last two occasions I didn’t sleep with him and tried to explain that I wanted a relationship not just based on sex. I want to go out for a drink and enjoy other things - which we never do.

On Friday he came to my house, but as soon as he sat down on the sofa he was trying to touch me and I did not feel comfortable.

Originally, I said he could stay. Then, as the evening progressed, I asked if he minded not doing so.

He got angry, said he’d never known anyone as frigid as me, that all the girls he has had in the past are always willing.

He’s my age but is used to going out (and still does) with much younger girls. He said I have issues with sex and he wasn’t patient enough to put up with it because sex is a way to get close to someone.

I explained I need reassurance that he wasn’t just seeing me for sex and how I’m not used to the ‘pawing’ all the time. I said laughing, talking and going out mean so much to me.

He suddenly walked out of my front door, like a petulant teenager. I haven’t heard from him since.

In the past, every man who tried to befriend me had the ultimate goal of sex - including a couple of relatives when I was very young. And I was sexually abused at 13, which my parents never believed.

Because of that I want to change things and find a man who likes me for me. Is that wrong?

Perhaps I just didn’t fancy this guy. I said to him it was my body and I felt that it should be my decision if I want to have sex with someone or not.

Is there something wrong with me? I would love to meet a man who respects me. Surely sex comes naturally and isn’t an issue when you are with the right partner?