Create a wide-ranging catalog of qualities you desire in a spouse. Will your lover be straightforward, very elegant, sophisticated, or lighthearted? Only you know the correct blend of individuality characteristics that suit you best. This is an exercise for the imagination, so don’t edit or think about how impossible it seems. Let your mind run free with the idea of finding a great love who is just right for you.
Your list can be completed in an hour or compiled over time. Some people find it helpful to add to the list periodically, as new ideas and experiences help you to clarify what kind of person will float your boat. Don’t be surprised if some items drop off the list and are replaced by new qualities you never thought of before – that’s a good thing! Clarity about your desires helps to manifest them.

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It’s an painful authenticity for so numerous of us as we appear to be in a connection with an important person. Our necessities may be mechanically branching from old expressive prototypes within our psyche. Those patterns may have been formulated in early childhood, during puberty, or even from our ‘first love’. Each time we grow into a new relationship, we hope that we have learned enough from the sum of our previous experiences to say that we are prepared to reap the harvest of our true partner. Unfortunately, if unfinished business still resides within your mind and heart, it will eventually surface in the new relationship.

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